Questions to consider in polyamorous relationships

Cascade Spring Cook


Some things to pay attention to, to help in making a decision about whether or not to become involved in a particular relationship:

  • Does this add to or detract from my other relationships? (In particular my primary relationship, if I have one)
  • Am I increasing intimacy or avoiding intimacy?
  • What are the likely effects of making love to this new person? Will I/we like the residues?
  • Is this encouraging personal growth?
  • Am I paying attention to my own needs? To my partners' needs?
  • What are my motivations?
  • How does this fit into my existing life? Do I have enough time for this?
  • Does this feel life affirming?
  • What do my inner voices say about this?

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